Is he Mr. Right??

Ladies, have you encountered ‘the guy’? Yes, that one who just makes your stomach churn and do flip-flops that you couldn’t hack in P.E. class? Allow me to share with y’all my description of the guy. I entitled it ‘He is…’

He is the quintessential kind of guy,

He is the epitome of His wonderful creation.

He portrays a carefully thought-out carving,

Michelangelo’s David.

He is beautiful, inside and out.

He is a friend,

A soldier.

A lover.

He is ever so wonderful,

So caring.

So thoughtful.

He is an angel amongst mortals,

He is…

But a figment of my imagination. L

Let’s face it. We all, at one time, have dreamt of this guy. This knight in shining armour. And all the hunks in the movies aren’t helping!! Yaani!! Temptations galore! Nothing wrong with dreaming, wishing, hoping for ‘Mr.Right’. The problem with most of us, however, is that we are getting desperate, and at times we don’t know it. We forget that with time, God presents to us the perfect guy. Or we refuse to believe that. Either way, we’ve become impatient. And our impatience is leading us to lust, which is sin by definition. (James 1:13-15)

In most of our bevies (cliques) and social circles these days, it’s become the natural thing to have a jamaa, and to discuss our dudes in detail, alert each other on the next subject of interest etc...There’s undue pressure to attain ‘in a relationship’ status. Nowadays I hear girls say they are single and ready to mingle…that’s all good, but are we just going to settle for any dude who comes our way?(No offence to the guys here).

Let me paint a picture: How many of you ladies have been in and out of relationships as though you moving from house to house to visit friends? You break up with a guy today; tomorrow you are spotted beside another. And how many of us are in relationships because we fear being alone? You’re with a guy who’s not good enough for you and you know it, but you still stick with him? Then there’s those of us who are born again, but are dating guys who don’t even know what church is? Ama they just haven’t made that decision to live for Christ?

I could describe a thousand types of scenarios that most of us are in. We are living in a day and age where the word ‘love’ is misused. I ask, who’s Mr. Right? Is it that unsaved guy you’re clinging on to? Or that unappreciative guy who’s still playing his field coz he’s not a one-girl-kind-of-guy? No ladies! We gotta get up from this mess. We gotta take off the garment of insecurity and instead wear that of acceptance, appreciation. We all know, it’s been repeated a thousand times. But it’s true. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. We are beautiful. You’re beautiful. And you don’t need to have a whole list of guys you’ve dated to feel beautiful.

Proverbs 31 describes a wife of noble character. I believe that we ought to strive to be that kind of woman, clothed with strength and dignity. We need to break away from these unworthy relationships. You wanna know love? It doesn’t get any better than in 1 Corinthians 13. You wanna experience the full joy of salvation? Break away, and bring Christ in the picture. I promise, no, I guarantee, you’ll soar on eagle’s wings!

Romans 12:2-“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-His good, pleasing and perfect will.”

God’s will for you is to find true love. You can’t change that guy to get saved. You aren’t the Messiah! Would like to sugar-coat it for you, but it’s the painful truth. Nowhere has God said you need that guy to feel beautiful, or appreciated. And God feels you. He’s offering His help. He says:

“Do not fear, for I am with you;

do not be dismayed, for I am your God.

I will strengthen you and help you;

I will uphold you with my precious right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10)

Why don’t you let go and let God? Mr. Right is being molded by God to suit you perfectly.